If you have listened to me talk about trauma recovery, addictions and great sex, you will understand that I do love the subject. The biology of sex is such a phenomenal thing, I wonder how we miss it in our every day conversations. Yet, I was getting dissatisfied.

I could not believe myself when it started because I did love the subject, I was trying to get my Master’s either in Expressive Art Therapy, Sex Therapy or Anatomy/biology with a specialisation in reproductive biology. But academically, I was disadvantaged with my background in Physics Education and not one in Biology Education.

When the dissatisfaction started, I chalked it down to giving up and quitting. So I tried to fight harder. Yet, I found myself studying extensively about dating and Matchmaking. I love how culture has a solution for core problems and arranged marriages solved a big problem even though it created others.

My research was this: what filled the void when we eliminated arranged marriages? Are people no longer getting married because they hate marriages or were people never supposed to get married without help?

These things were not a big deal until I started downloading dating apps to see what people resorted to and I noticed funny patterns: swipe left and right when the only information you were shown was a name, an image and 30 word description, LinkedIn images on dating apps, apps that focused primarily on the developers pocket and not the user’s heart. Well, it is what it is. I deleted the apps and moved on.

A few weeks later, a friend who has not physically seen me in a year goes to picnic with me and one of her casual questions to me was “Do you intend to build a dating app?” I was speechless and just asked why she would ask me that out of nowhere.

Barely a week passed when another friend got in my DM on WhatsApp casually asking “When are you building a dating app?”. This one made me laugh because he asked as if I made a promise to build an app. I explained I was doing some fun reading on the subject but nothing serious is happening yet.

It would interest you to know my client at Liza Express suddenly started changing to people in their 30s who recently got single, have always been single or are having dating problems.

Now, I could not deny that I had entered something different. I still could not name what it was but I liked those sessions better, I spent more time during sessions, I referred my clients to other therapists less, I took more sessions and I liked the results my clients got.

So, I convinced myself that I’d have dating as a subsection of Liza Express except I never did. I stayed in limbo. I wrote a book draft, drafted the assessments, had my assistant set up the assessment process, built the dating website and never used any of it for a day because I kept tweaking everything a thousand times.

Because I was scared I was single. Because the Lord told me the day I finished the book draft that what I knew (professionally) would not work for me and I had to have faith for my own man and I did not like it. So, I quit before I even started.

Eventually, Liza Express felt less enjoyable, more stressful and eventually, too capital intensive. During which period, all our social media accounts got locked, An entire season of a sex talkshow we produced crashed with a harddrive and our online presence declined. I still did not take the cue because I can be human like that. I tried to reset things and dragged my team into it.

June 2025, the Lord asked me to invite 11 people to join me so we could pray for our marriages for 90 days. That quick broadcast message turned into two communities with 32 people in total, the prayer guides changed my approach to love, gave me courage and confronted my fear.

During the prayer period, I had to teach a masterclass on being Seen and Desired to help people understand the psychological part of things but one masterclass was not enough. So, I had one-on-one sessions with a few people and it was a combination of the Educator and The therapist; a perfect blend of me.

Those many resource materials became articles, the prayer guide became a book I am presently writing, the desire to help people connect eventually made me launch the Matchmaking database. The rest, they say, is history.